Beware of the Fake It Till You Make It Trap

By Michael Arrington MS, MFT

Doctoral Candidate 

🚨 Beware the "Fake It Till You Make It" Trap! 🚨

πŸ” Let's talk about the "Fake It Till You Make It" mantra that's often glorified in self-help circles. While it may seem like a confidence booster, it's essential to recognize its potential downsides.

🧠 Authenticity Matters: Embracing our true selves fosters genuine connections and builds trust. Pretending to be something we're not can lead to a lack of congruence, ultimately affecting our self-esteem and relationships.

πŸ—️ Building on Shaky Ground: Using this approach can lead to imposter syndrome, where we constantly fear being exposed as a fraud. Genuine growth and success come from a solid foundation of skills and experience, not from pretending.

πŸ’‘The Power of Vulnerability: Embracing our vulnerabilities allows us to learn and grow. It's okay to admit that we don't know something or need help—asking for support strengthens us and shows humility.

🎭 Embrace Growth Mindset: Instead of faking it, let's focus on a growth mindset. Embracing challenges and learning from failures empowers us to develop our skills and truly achieve greatness.

πŸ™Œ Let's encourage one another to be authentic, embrace vulnerability, and seek growth. Together, we can build a healthier and more supportive professional environment. #AuthenticityMatters #GrowthMindset #BeYourself

(Note: This post highlights the drawbacks of the "Fake It Till You Make It" approach and promotes the importance of authenticity, vulnerability, and a growth mindset for personal and professional development.)


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Michaels contributions have led to student successes. As of 2021 he has taken 112 high school students who lack of motivation, focus and credits to graduate, to incentivized and goal orientated students able to reach their academic potential. These 112 students are all set to graduate in the class of 2022. Eighty-one of the 112 students will be enrolled in community college and 4 directly to universities this fall. He also remains active in professional associations, frequently presenting research at the American Educational Research Association and the Critical Race Studies in Education Association. Michael also helped create a mental health unit for youth who were incarcerated in juvenile hall. This unit was designed to provide treatment to youth incarcerated that suffer from mental health issues, trauma, or suicidal ideations.