W.O.R.K.
The Wonders Of Relationship Knowledge speaks to 4 tenants for a successful relationship.
What are your relationship goals?
Many of us desire a lasting, fulfilling, long-term relationship – yet sometimes the passion dissipates.
Even the best romances hit rough patches over time. Children often change the dynamic. Finances and illness also add stress to even the best couples. Overtime partners stake each other for granted. While passion is essential to start the fire, passion alone won’t sustain the flame. Relationship, of all kinds require work.
Great relationships don’t come to people because they are lucky, unusually well-matched or drowning in great chemistry. Extraordinary, long-lasting relationships come from hard work, determination, and commitment. They’re built on strong relationship guidelines that both partners believe in and mutual respect.
1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
It’s all too easy to blame all your relationship problems on your partner. But as Michael says at W.O.R.K., “If we want freedom there’s only one way: 100% responsibility for our experience of life no matter what anyone else did.” Real relationship goals aren’t about fixing your partner. They’re about both people taking responsibility or their own role, issues, and their problems.
2. OLD KEYS WON’T OPEN NEW DOORS
The stories we tell ourselves about who we are, who our partner is and who we are together affect every experience we have – and long-term relationships are filled with these stories. If you want your relationship to be extraordinary, you must throw out the old stories and realize you are still creating the stories and spend each day treating it like it’s new. Forget what your partner “always” does or “never” does. Let go of the past and focus on your relationship goals for the future.
3. UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER’S NEEDS
Everyone has a love language, and these needs have to be fulfilled. We also bring different experiences and perspectives into relationships that guide our expectations and actions. That’s why one of the best relationship guidelines is to work to understand your partner’s unique perspective, needs and triggers. When you do this, you open the door to lasting passion, true intimacy, and unending fulfillment.
4. HONESTY AND VULNERABILITY IS THE BEST POLICY
At the beginning of a relationship, we sometimes seek to impress our partner and we don’t divulge certain secrets and deep-rooted issues we carry. Overtime, these issues come to the surface. To truly sustain, you need to learn the power of trust and vulnerability. When you are most vulnerability, you are your truest self. This is difficult for most people. Society has taught us the vulnerability is a weakness. In order to truly connect you have to allow yourself and your partner to be completely open and honest knowing that no matter what, you will support each other.
